Forgiveness
As time passes and we mature we learn and pick up many
different characteristics and ways of life. Some are good and some are bad, and
most of them make us the unique individuals that we are.
" From me to you, forgiveness was free. An open heart, filled with glee."
I spent a lot of time over the weekend with friends, mostly
old and some new. I began to think a lot about my relationships with each one,
and how we have progressed over time.
With each one I have laughed, cried, fought, argued,
disagreed, enjoyed, experienced and made sweet memories with them during our
travels through this journey called life.
I woke up this morning, Monday May 7, 2012, and thought about
“forgiveness” and what a complicated word it is.
Forgiveness is something we learn to do. It’s something that
comes from the bottom of our heart, and from true kindness. It’s not for
everyone though.
People forgive for different reasons. Some forgive because
they understand. Others forgive because it’s to their benefit to do so.
I forgive because I know we all make mistakes, and at the
end of the day we are all just human.
To have forgiveness, you must first have pain and hurt. Why
do we insist on hurting people we love and care about; or people who love and
care about us? I think that sometimes individuals do not know how to release
their stress and anger in a proper way, and as time passes these emotions get
bottled up inside of them; eventually they…explode!
What an unlucky person you are, if you happen to be around
when someone EXPLODES!
We often tend to ignore the birth and rise of a situation,
and I guess most would agree that it’s really the outcome that matters. But if
you want to understand “it” you have to completely know “it.”
I’ve come to realize that I’m a very patient and
understanding person. Because of these two traits, I tend to forgive a lot, but
I don’t mind. I would hope that if I ever made a mistake someone would be
willing to forgive me as well.
As I sit here typing, I keep thinking that some of you might
not understand or agree with what I’m writing. Yes, there are certain things
that you might not ever be willing to forgive...such as, a cheating spouse, a
compulsive liar, or just a forgetful friend. But what I’m hoping is that these
same people learn their lesson and realize what they are doing is wrong…they
need us to teach them, guide them and forgive them.
When you begin to forgive and understand, you learn to build
a friendship with those around you and in your life. Forgiveness is what makes
any relationship strong and lasting. Perhaps, forgiveness, is just as important
as honesty and trust.
Forgiveness is not an easy thing to do. For some people it
might come as a sign of weakness. However, those that forgive are stronger than
those that decide to ignore a situation.
So as I wrap up this post, I will leave you with a line from
one of my poems I wrote last year on April 11, 2011. The poem is called “Unusual
Ways.”
How much are you willing to forgive?
